Did you watch The New Edition Story on BET last week? I sure did! And I enjoyed every second of it. After the finale day, I went to sleep and, as my mind tends to do, I started thinking of the strategic lessons to be learned from Ralph, Ricky, Bobby, Michael, Ronnie and Johnny, and so I thought I'd share them with you. So here they are: image credit: Variety.com ONE. Let your fear drive you to find another way. We have Bobby to thank for this one! Remember when he competed in his first talent show and caught a killer case of stage fright? He could have decided right then and there that the showbiz life was not for him. But, instead, because he knew deep in his heart that he was an entertainer and that he had a gift for the world to see and hear, he got creative. Bobby rounded up his boys to create a group so that he wouldn't have to face the stage alone. Not only was that extremely strategic on his part, but he also was acknowledging his own shortcomings and giving himself a way to get around that roadblock. Little did he know, a musical sensation of a group was about to be birthed thanks to his roadblock. And? once his confidence was built up and he got to a place where we was comfortable in his skin, Bobby went solo. And that was all she wrote! Apply it! Is there something you're scared to do in your life or your business right now? Try taking a step back and looking at the challenge creatively. What other ways can you take in order to get to your goal destination? It will take some soul searching and being honest with yourself, but if there's a will, there's a way. Tweet it: How can I conquer my "stage fright"? Bobby Brown started a group. What's my fear and the creative solution? #StrategyMagic by @justicefergie TWO. You can't go it alone. Find the RIGHT person to help you win. What's the first thing the boys did once they decided to make their singing dream happen? They sought out a manager. Once they were under Brooke Payne's guidance, they began to take structure as a group and he was able to negotiate opportunities for them to advance their careers. Not only was Brooke there for them on a professional level, but on a personal level, too. So much so that their later record label hired Brooke to come back to work with New Edition when things were getting rocky. Even at a young age, the boys knew that they needed someone with the expertise and connections to help them along. As young adults, that same person would prove valuable to keep them on track. Apply it! Maybe you don't need a manager, per se. But do you have a mentor? An advisor? A coach? Someone to provide guidance and to open doors for you. Think of yourself and your gifts as "the talent" - what kind of "manager" could you benefit from? Tweet it: Don't underestimate the power of a mentor, advisor or coach in my business. I can't manage my talent alone! #strategymagic by @justicefergie THREE. Persevere. In the mini-series, we had a front-row … [Read more...] about Three Entrepreneurial Takeaways from The New Edition Story
1. Zadie head wrap by The Wrap Life // 2. Rose Hibiscus Hydrating Face Mist by Herbivore // 3. January 2017 Flagship Edition: Palm by Day Designer // 4. French Toast Matte Lip Whip by Beauty Bakerie // 5. The Bloom Beautifully Self Care Box // 6. Pins from Shop Luella Ah, the end of 2016. Such a rough year for so many! Myself included. This was a taxing year, both professionally and personally, but I saw it through. On the work front, I continued to push myself to grow and take risks, which was a good thing but also demanding. And on the personal front, we weathered a move to a new house - while welcoming our first-ever set of tenants at our old house; we gained, and then lost a beloved pet; dealt with getting accustomed to new schools and new friends; and I continued to struggle with health issues (and my favorite Zumba instructor left!). To top it all off, we had an election that dumbfounded and crushed the spirits of many, including my own, and a good friend of mine is in her last days on this Earth. That said, there were many happy moments too: a wonderful birthday cruise; our beautiful new home; work opportunities in LA, OKC, Laguna Nigel, Arkansas, Miami and Chicago; a successful Blogalicious conference; a successful coaching program class; a successful surgical procedure; great seats at Beyonce's Formation Tour; a family hike on the Underground Railroad in Maryland; a family outing to the National Museum of African-American History and Culture; a fun-filled Thanksgiving trip; Middle School (!!), a new product line, and more. This year's Feel-Good Holiday Gift Guide is a combination of things that have brought be joy this year AND things that I'd like to incorporate into my 2017. Here's to a love-filled holiday season and a magical new year. Feel Good for My Fashion Sensibilities: Zadie Wrap Can I make a confession? I can't fashion a head wrap to save my life. And yet I am obsessed with how fabulous they look! I'm determined to make it happen and I bet this gorgeous wrap by The Wrap Life will inspire me to get my act together. I had a fun hair year: crochet curls, crochet braids, dark color and bangs! But every now and then a girl needs to just give it a rest and wrap her hair up in a fly scarf. Thank goodness for YouTube. Feel Good for My Skin: Herbivore Botanicals With all the travel I was doing at the top of the year, I made a decision to gift myself with travel products that felt decadent. I stumbled across Herbivore Botanicals on Instagram and I was hooked. I have their Rose Hibiscus Hydrating Face Mist, the Orchid Facial Oil Roller, and Coco Rose Lip Conditioner. It feels great to apply these products after a day of flying that dries out your skin. I also appreciate a brand with a solid mission and meaningful story. Feel Good for My Business: Day Designer I'm a planner addict. There's no denying. And for a long time, I've been hearing about this Day Designer! I loved my Goal Digger planner last year, but I'd … [Read more...] about Fergie’s Feel-Good Holiday Gift Guide 2016
I'm not even going to talk about the election. If you are Facebook friends with me then you know that I shared myself silly with articles and think pieces about how the end is near. I took the results pretty hard and I think my hyper-productive personality kicked in its protection mechanism in order to save me from shriveling up into a ball. [Stacey isn't at all dramatic. Said no one, ever.] That protection mechanism manifested itself in the form of launching a new business out of thin air in a matter of days. TBH, I had thought of the idea of creating specialty gift wrap before, but it was always just a fleeting thought because (a) who has the time, (b) I have zero experience in this lane, and (c) WHO HAS THE TIME. After hearing Arsha Jones' workshop during the Blogalicious Weekend 2016 VIP Mastermind Day, I started hearing a little voice that said: "just do it." And so I did. Check me out on Shopify. I'm having such fun with it and the reception has been fantastic. Case study on how I made it happen coming next... … [Read more...] about When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Creative: Introducing Fetti Wrap!
This morning as I forced myself and my aching hips to go on a neighborhood walk, I was listening to the Call Your Girlfriend podcast on the topic of 'Chosen Family'. The girls were discussing their love of Thanksgiving (and Friendsgiving) and all this particular holiday brings (the good and the not-so-awesome). Two things they said that really stood out to me where: That the Thanksgiving holiday can have restorative powers when celebrated right; and There is no law that says that you must subject yourself to the pain that family gatherings can bring for some. I'm paraphrasing, of course, but you get the gist. Let's discuss, shall we? I remember smiling wide during my walk when they made the first point about Thanksgiving being healing in some ways (my neighbors probably thought I was/am looney). I totally get this feeling. For me, Thanksgiving means my family - both nuclear and extended, which is a coup. If I can have my children, husband, Mom and sister sharing a holiday together, I'm winning - no question. The traditions of it all bring comfort as well. For example, I know there will be turkey. And Mommy's peas and rice. My homemade cranberry sauce. And Hubby will have the pleasure of his aunt's sweet potato pies. The kids will gorge themselves on mashed potatoes and Shirley Temples. Everyone is happy. DebListSta (that's the name for my mom, my sister and me) will be in the kitchen, laughing and singing (Mommy and I literally sang "My Favorite Things" while cooking this year). It's good. And of course, along with the good, comes the challenging. For me, that means juggling travel logistics with a family of 5, crashing at my Mom's BF's house, and making time to visit ALL THE PEOPLE. My Dad and Stepmother; My In-Laws; My BFFs; and ALL of Hubby's extended family - there are dozens and dozens. Attending his cousin's wedding. Anticipating the looks and comments because I've gained so much weight. All the while, working like a maniac and trying to keep everyone happy and no one's feelings hurt. No lie - it was a lot. The second point from the podcast - about not having to subject yourself to the pain these gatherings can bring - I see from another standpoint: that of my sister. Because she's Deaf, family gatherings are always painful for her because of the communication barrier. This year she was proactive and had us download Ava beforehand (and she also limited her visit). I'm guessing that was her way of mitigating the pain. For my part, I mitigated (kinda) by planning our Thanksgiving rounds before even landing in Miami. Thankfully my Dad agreed to do Black Friday Brunch to lessen the burden of the actual Thanksgiving Day (where we already had 2 dinners INCLUDING a baby shower to semi-plan and attend). I also made 2 separate trips to visit my BFFs instead of trying to plan a group get-together - it cut down on the coordination and I got to spend different kinds of time with each. Work was definitely the monkey wrench though - I … [Read more...] about The Restorative Powers of Thanksgiving
Doesn't it seem like every public figure is writing a book these days? From Arianna Huffington to LaLa Anthony to T.D. Jakes to Steve Harvey. It's hard to know which ones are strictly publicity stunts and which ones are truly worth your time and money. After catching T.D. Jakes on Oprah's Lifeclass last May sharing his experience writing Instinct, I literally bought the book that night. He was down-to-earth and inspiring and completely sold on the concept of intuition, in which I am a firm believer. I brought the book with me when we traveled to Miami and read the entire thing in 2 plane rides. I found myself highlighting passages left and right and feeling like the book was written for me. There are so many smart concepts in the book - none of which are rocket science, but all of which make perfect sense as applied - but one in particular did it for me: The demand isn't as significant as your purpose. When I read that it was a standstill moment for me. The demand isn't as significant as your purpose. I'm busy. I'm overextended. I burn the candle at both ends (and often in the middle). I constantly feel like people are pulling at me from all directions, wanting and needing things from me. Kids, friends, clients, parents, followers, team members, WHOMEVER. And it's easy to get stressed out and exhausted and to contemplate throwing in the towel and getting a job at the mall. [Go ahead and laugh. I'd be the best damn retail associate you'd ever meet. But I digress.] So when I read those words, I had an immediate shift in perspective. Yes, I may feel like I'm always 'in demand' but that stress is not as important as the reason why I'm here. My purpose will always outweigh the pressures of the work. Wow Pastor Jakes. Ok, I hear you. My response to all of that stuff is what really matters. The other thing about that excerpt? It literally sets the stage for brand building: chart your course (create your blueprint/plan of action); stabilize your process (research, test and implement systems); organize your assets (play to your strengths; use what you already have; get prepared). These are the things leaders do. Everyone else? Complains and misses out on the opportunity presented. Ouch. There are oh-so-many gems in this book. Give it a read [disclosure: affiliate link] and let me know what you think. … [Read more...] about Smart People: T.D. Jakes and “Instinct: The Power to Unleash Your Inborn Drive”