I just finished reading this post on Shine and felt immediately vindicated as I read the author’s declaration that her “love for motherhood has deepened over the past few months” as a SAHM, as compared to her time as a WOHM. “See!” I exclaimed to myself, “I knew it.”
And then I read the comments that other readers had left. While the dominating sentiment seems to be that SAHMs are overall happier and more guilt-free, it’s clear that there are pros and cons to each situation. And I suppose deep down inside I know and understand that. I do still believe, however, that choosing to be a SAHM or WAHM makes a huge difference in a mother’s happiness; not having a choice in the matter and feeling trapped is what is contributing to my constant stress.
Just this afternoon I said to my husband that I have been feeling at peace this week, and I attribute it to the fact that – between my part-time schedule and the holiday – I’ve been in to the office only one day this week. I don’t feel the usual constant state of panic or rushing; the girls’ homework was done way before Sunday evening; the grocery shopping was done before Sunday night; and we’ve even had time to read a ton of books – which I never ever have enough time to do with the kids. And I am already apprehensive knowing that I’ll be back to the harried, forgetful, exhausted WOHM next week.
I try to remind myself that the grass is always greener on the other side though; and articles like the one I read on Shine are a great reminder of that.